Thursday, August 18, 2011


I know there is nothing new under the sun, but it seems like, at least to me, there is something new every day.  Something I'm not expecting.  And really that's the crux of the matter.

See, when I have expectations and they get changed it's hard for me.  I expect things to go the way I imagine.  Not necessarily because I imagine it that way and want it to be that way, but simply because it's based on previous times and experiences.

The problem is that when things don't turn out the way I expected I don't know what to do with it.

I'm not sure what the solution is here.  I think I may be hard wired to have expectations.  Is there a way to expect that things will not turn out the way you think they will?  Or do I already do that in planning for every last possibly discrepancy in my plans? (ie, 3 extra changes of clothes, coats, and a package of diapers for a day trip...)

Is there a way to expect that changes will be good rather than bad?  Especially when the thing you were expecting was supposed to be good to begin with?  'cuz I'm all for being pleasantly surprised, but I'm not so keen on things taking a turn for the worse.  And that's usually what I'm afraid of.

New: I'm really not sure what to do with it.

Then again, I can look at my life 5 years ago and if you'd told me I'd be where I am today I'm not sure I'd have believed it.  So in the long run I'm sure new is a good thing...

Now, if I could just translate that into my daily life maybe I'd be happier.  At least I'm pretty sure my husband would be...

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  1. I totally get what you are saying. I think for me....trusting God to be at work in ALL things in my life...helps me to handle the new and unexpected things that life brings. Knowing and trusting He is working ALL things for His glory and my good.

    (By the way, I found a verse for my post that seemed to "fit" better, so I went ahead and changed it.) :0)
    Thanks for stopping by. Have a blessed weekend, trusting in HIM!

  2. Yes!! Last year my new husband of only 2 years had a heart transplant. Never saw that coming! But I will tell you that I am so blessed by it. Not only because he is alive and well today, but because of what God taught me. There are things that I needed to learn, and God knew exactly what it would take to get me there. It wasn't fun, but it was His divine blessing.
    So even when the unexpected comes, and it will come, try to think of it in terms of what you can become from it.
    I know this is so hard, and even now I don't think this way often, but when I do the blessing is really great!

    Have a good weekend!!

  3. Ahh, those expectations! For me, this is particularly difficult in a marriage-expectations are often different on each side. Getting them to meet up is the challenge. Better yet, check them out the window. As my bff says, forget about expectation and embrace expectancy for good things to come.


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