Friday, May 27, 2011
Forgive and forget. That's what they say anyway, but so much easier said than done.
We've been reading a book on forgiveness in our Bible study and I love it. It talks about what forgiveness really is (and it's not what a lot of people try to shove down your throat) and how at the root if it, it sets YOU free, not the person you've forgiven. As sometimes they don't even realize they've done anything wrong.
But I digress. When it comes to forgetting I think it's important. But not in the way that you let people walk all over you. It's healthy to have boundaries when someone has repeatedly done hurtful things to you.
On the other hand, I'm so thankful that God has forgiven me and forgotten those things. Now I need to do the same, especially to those closest to me. Bringing up, or even stewing on old hurts does nothing, but promote bitterness.
Sometimes it's hard to see a change when you're right in the middle of it. And it's okay to allow that change to happen slowly, sometimes painfully slowly, as long as there is intention and progress. No one changes overnight, especially not me.
Now, to forgive and forget for myself. This one may be the hardest of all. Aren't we all our own worst critics? But as the book said, you can't forgive others unless you first start with yourself. And I would like to be free.
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